Last week, we reviewed a few of the principles we covered in the men’s spiritual leadership boot camp. Keeping these things in front of us is a necessity if we are going to continue practicing the disciplines essential for spiritual leadership in our homes. As the men’s breakfast approaches (at which we will take the follow-up survey), lets consider the rest of the main principles.
Remember how crucial it is to understand how sanctification works so that we can pursue godliness and lead our families to do the same. Remember that understanding the gospel is central to understanding sanctification. God is holy (Lev19:2); Man is sinful (Rom 3:10-18,23); God is wrathful (Rom 1:18, 2:5); Man is doomed (Matt 7:19; Rom 6:23); God is gracious (Eph 2:4-10); Christ was given (John 3:16; Gal 4:4-5); God was satisfied (Rom 3:25-26); I am redeemed (Eph 1:7; Col 1:13-14).
Have you spent any time recently meditating on these truths? The gospel gives us the right power, motive, and desire to change. Therefore, true sanctification cannot happen in isolation from the truths contained in the gospel. If we would lead our families to grow in their knowledge of Jesus and in Christlikeness, we must be men of the gospel. This begins with saturating ourselves with it, so that we might saturate our families with it.
Remember that the Bible calls us to actively strive in the power of the gospel to kill sin and put on godly living. The Holy Spirit uses the warnings and exhortations of the New Testament to spur us on to holiness. Sanctification involves God working in us and us working out our own salvation (Phil 2:12-13). We do this by using the resources He has given us to put off sin and put on righteousness.
Have you been actively putting to death the deeds of the flesh according to the plan of attack we discovered together? Is there a particular sin you are regularly putting off and replacing with the opposing godly virtue? Remember that we must be experts on this kind of spiritual battle if we are going to lead our families in the fight. The best way to learn how to fight is to engage in it ourselves.
Remember the importance of leading our families in regular times of devotion. It is our responsibility to establish the Lord as the sole object of worship in our homes (“As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD” Joshua 24:15). There is no more important way to do this than to actually worship Him together there. Family devotions are an indispensable component of leading our families to worship God alone.
Have you continued this practice? Are you regularly seeking to point your family to the Lord? Remember that the Bible commands formal instruction and it assumes that regular devotion takes place there. It doesn’t have to be a major production requiring hours of preparation. Simply reading the Word and praying together is extremely valuable.
Remember that it is our joy and responsibility to evangelize and disciple each individual in the family. God doesn’t save families, but individuals. It is not a certainty that all members of the family will trust the Lord at an early age or at all. Likewise, not all members of the family will journey toward Christlikeness at the same rate. We must know where every member of the family is on the journey toward justification and sanctification so that we can provide individual help along the way.
Have you continued to give individual attention to the spiritual needs of your wife and kids? If asked, could you describe what is weighing on the heart of each of them? If asked, could you describe how you are helping them? Remember that we literally have nothing better to do than to shepherd our families. It is part and parcel of our own devotion to the Lord.
Please make every effort to attend the men’s breakfast on May 16 at 7am at the church. It will be a great time of fellowship and spiritual refreshment. May the Lord use it to stir up us all to love and good works and to greater faithfulness in leading our families. I hope to see you all there. (Again, please RSVP to Ted Knecht [firstname.lastname@example.org] so that we will know how much food to prepare.)